Your Emotional Pains

Studies indicates that 80% of our sickness are due to our emotional hurts, resentments and unexpressed anger. Most of our emotional pains are rooted in our childhood.

Issues we failed to settle regarding our self-concept and how our parents treated us. We may feel we are not good enough for our parent's approval so we end up seeking attention but no matter how hard we try we seem not to please our parents.

This feeling results to unsettled pain in our life. In our adult years, we get sick to get the attention of our loved ones.

Because when we are sick, we get everyone's attention . So our symptoms recurs whenever we long for  attention  . In the long run, we accept our sickness as part of our everyday life to feel loved , at times our situation get worse just because we ourselves create our sickness.

Now we are looking for a better way of handling our difficulties...we want to move one...we want to get well.

The only remedy is to heal our emotional pain by recognizing it and finding the root cause of our hurt.

Only then we will heal....

Sickness As A Message

I read in an ancient book on Callings that sickness has a message , it is as if our soul is calling our attention . In our busy lives sometimes we neglect to pay attention on certain important matters . We maybe successful in our work but we do not have time for our family . We may lack communication with some family members just because we are mostly at our workplace , if we are at home we may be too tired to even converse ..

Then we drift .. at times ...we feel alone because some family members found other interests and they drift as well from us ...then we wonder what is going on after the so many years of neglect

Then to get the attention of our loved ones some get sick so we can get their focus back on us ...some could not afford to get well because the attention may get lost ... then becomes a cycle of illness and doctors could not have a diagnosis ... because it is not the body that is sick but our soul ...

Our soul suddenly thirst for love and attention ...looking for some place where we could feel loved .. but we are lost we can not find the love we are looking for ... so some get sick while they wander what is the next big thing to do in their lives .

There are also times that we may have all the materials things life can give us but we feel something is still missing ... that is when we find that we are really missing out what life is all about .

Our soul talks back to us ... we have to go back to our source ...our divine source ...it is then that we discover that God is the one missing in our lives . We think we can do everything on our own efforts but it is a

lie ...God provides the joy and peace ...contentment and happiness ... we are seeking in the material world ... but this is all temporary ...

We have to listen to our soul and it hunger for God's love... we just don't love our self and others..we need that connection to our spiritual source ...

If we want a life of health ...God will provide us but we have to affirm , we have to ask for good health , we have to desire goodness and joy and peace and contentment ...

Listen to the voice of our soul ... it will tell us what direction we have to take ... for a life of joy and peace ....  

My Dear Mom

For the past years I have been writing about my Dad and even reposting the blog whenever Father's Day comes . But my Mom is equally as great as my Dad . She is the support in my family . She inspired my Dad to be his best as a father  .

They both were young when they got married . They have seven ( 7 ) children and I am their eldest . I graduated from college when I was nineteen years old . They respected my choice of  what to take in college . I took up Industrial Psychology . Though I started in a university as a guidance counselor , I eventually ended up in corporate work as an HR practitioner  , which I am still  doing now  .

Since I started working when I was 20 years old  , I have been helping my parents in the needs of my family .  The usual school needs of my siblings for tuition fee , allowances , books , etc. When I got married at 25 years old , I still find ways to support my parents .

As mentioned in my previous blog about my father , he works in a famous hotel in the 90s as a executive driver to the president of the company . His salary was not enough for 7 children so my Mom she has a small store in our house and does buy and sell of almost every thing . She was really the support to my Dad. They were partners . They provided for our needs no matter what.

I don't remember watching movies as a family but we do go to the Luneta  park for morning jogging and biking . Maybe it was expensive to watch a movie as a family back then .

I remember helping my Mom take care of my brothers and sisters because she has to go to the neighborhood to sell her stuff . I learned how to clean house , cook and wash clothes . Yes , she was also my mentor on how to be a Mom and manage the house .

A few years ago there was a McDonald's commercial about a married couple wherein their children one by one were leaving the house , I remember my Mom . She is on her own now , with Dad in heaven now . I know Dad still watch over her .

If you still have your Mom with you show her you love her , if you can not say it , just show it . Through the years , me and my husband has given our parents monetary allowances for their needs . Probably with the long years that we have been doing this , we have paid back their expenses on us .
But I know we can never pay back the sacrifices and love they have given us.

Mom , you are such a blessing for me...continue to love us more
  

The Memory of My Dad Lingers On ( II )

Another diary journal entry for my Dad :

April 22, 2003

The numbness keeps coming back . Each day the questions keeps filing up and confusion still reigns in our minds ? So many unanswered questions...

How do we go back on track ? How do we seek justice and at the same time protect our families ?

Lord please provide the answers even to some of my questions . Lead us Lord to the ways that will be acceptable to you . Give us strength of spirit and protection for all these adversaries.

I am missing my father so much . I know death comes to all of us . The only question was why do they  have to do this to him ? He was just a simple man with his family as his top priority . His whole life revolves around us .

I could not imagine him wishing any harm on another person .

How do we close a grief and pain in our hearts ?

Each day the pain seems to be getting deeper ,the same thing is happening to  my siblings .

But Lord we know we have to move on with our lives especially for the sake of our own families .

Our journey must continue and face each day with hope in our hearts.

The Memory of Dad Lingers On ( I )

I came upon my diary journal entry after my Dad's death in 2003 .

April 5, 2003

mind drifts ...numb feelings ...
in a few days it will be a month since my Dad left us
 we are still confuse
as if he just left without saying goodbye to any of us
even to my Mom

this is an altogether new feeling for me
for all my family members

each day passes by with emptiness
and certain sadness in our hearts

why does he have to leave that way ?
he was shot by a drug user
early morning on his way to Luneta Park
for his morning tennis

he was a good man not just to us
but even to ordinary folks in the street
which he finds way to help

he has save the life of the teacher
who was supposed to be robbed by this drug user

whenever you are alone
the numb feelings comes back
reminding "the way he was taken from us "

mind drifts ...
to a past .....

The Memory of Dad Lingers On ( First )

I came upon my diary journal entry after my Dad's death in 2003 .

April 5, 2003

mind drifts ...numb feelings ...
in a few days it will be a month since my Dad left us
 we are still confuse
as if he just left without saying goodbye to any of us
even to my Mom

this is an altogether new feeling for me
for all my family members

each day passes by with emptiness
and certain sadness in our hearts

why does he have to leave that way ?
he was shot by a drug user
early morning on his way to Luneta Park
for his morning tennis

he was a good man not just to us
but even to ordinary folks in the street
which he finds way to help

he has save the life of the teacher
who was supposed to be robbed by this drug user

whenever you are alone
the numb feelings comes back
reminding "the way he was taken from us "

mind drifts ...
to a past .....

A Sense of Purpose

Your work is not a hindrance to the search for a grander purpose in life. If it is, you have a choice. Your work now is a part of the process of discovering your grander purpose in life. It is filled with hints, clues and challenges that point to that purpose.

To do that, find a sense of purpose in your work now. What is your purpose at work ? What role do you play ? What services do you offer to your fellow colleagues to make this a better place to work and a better world , and also through the services and products offered by your company ?

Understand that role and you will understand your grander purpose better, if not discover it. This is an important part of your career planning success and a factor for career success.

My purpose at work now is to provide directions for the company in terms of educating our managers how to do strategic planning. Motivating employees to participate in the accomplishment of these strategic goals for their department. Conducting TNAs  ( training needs analysis ) to further determine the needs of employees and how HR can address these identified needs through conducting seminars and providing motivational programs.

Assisting employees in developing Action Plans so that strategic goals are attained. The role that I will play is as a change agent. Inspiring people for a better way of doing things and anticipating a better life.

Since my core gift is on communication and leading, I will continuously provide seminars and training for my company so I can inspire our employees to do better in their jobs. Through these seminar workshops I will be able to share my knowledge to  my colleagues. The seminars will be my bridge in making my company a better place to work with.

Appreciation

My God

Sometimes I wonder why I feel this way now ... just enjoying Your love for me . The joy in my heart knowing how much you love me , nothing compares to it . Everything that I ask from You , you give it to me . It may not be at the time that I wanted it but still in Your precious time you grant my prayer request .

The road may not be easy but at the end of the journey , I found myself achieving the goals that I set for myself .

I will forever be awe by Your amazing love for me...


My husband

Ronnie is my greatest treasure , he is always there to support me and provide for my needs ...he is ever loving , thoughtful and understanding . I can not imagine a day without him at my side . I am so bless with his presence . I pray that we will be together for many more years to share , to help and love each other so we can enjoy our harvest , 30 more years Lord , please ... to serve you more...

My children

I have Daniel Richard , my eldest son and my twin daughters , Catherine Marie and Christine Marie . They are now grown up and finding their own place in this Universe .   Daniel , Cathy and Chris are God's greatest gift to me . All our ( me and my husband ) efforts then was all about giving them a  bright future . Thank God we are successful in providing them a good education they can use to start their own personal lives . 

We believe we raise them well because I know and feel how much they also love God in their daily lives .

My Parents

My parents loved me so much that they provided for all my needs especially when I was still studying . They were ordinary couples with a single income but despite all the odds I was able to finish my studies . I owe to them whatever I am now ...Thank you Daddy and Mommy ...

My work

I consider my work such a big blessings . It allowed me to provide for my children's education . It gave me the opportunity to express myself , to use my core gifts in human resource development and to bless others as well. I am able to use my knowledge , skills and experience . It pays for my house monthly amortization .
Although now that my children are college graduates and working  , my work becomes an expression of my creative side . I can practice my profession and coach others of the experience  and knowledge that I have gain  throughout the years .

My House

Aside for the education of my children , we also save and bought a house for our family . This is one of my life achievement , having my own house . It is a work in progress . It is a home where you can feel God's presence and love for you .

My Car

Nowadays a car is no longer a luxury but a necessity . But I am fortunate to be able to have my own  car through the graciousness of my former employer, Dunkin Donuts Phils .  then eventually when I decided to trade it with a newer model , my present employer , Papercon Phils , Inc. 


These are representation of all the blessings that I have , there are a lot more - material possessions , recognition , friends , relatives , and I have God as my witness on how I appreciate all these ... to God be the Glory...Thank your Lord...

Why Am I Here ?

I am so happy to be where I am now . I thank God for a blessed life . I may have challenges but with God's grace I was able to overcome them all. I am now enjoying the fruits of my labor and I want to make a difference by guiding others in the path to happiness and peace.

My great purpose in life is to lead others to the path of righteousness , happiness , joyful living and abundance .  I can contribute to humanity by providing inspiration and hope to those who are lost and confuse .

In my workplace community , I provide guidance in discipline and inspiration . I can relate with the different levels of people in the organization . I deal with top Management , I can relate with management and union employees and even with temporary employees . I see them all as a child of God . I am happy to serve every one to the best of my ability .

Yes people ( mostly ) are kind and supportive , compassionate, I am not sure how this is define and understood by all . Majority of people when you get to know them has a soft spot or a weakness . This becomes your connection to them , if you will be able to identify it.

You can minimize negative thoughts or actions , by exposing yourself to positive thoughts and actions . Reading motivational books and the Holy Bible ...watching and hearing prosperity preachers .

Listening to prosperity preachers like Joel Osteen , Bro Bo Sanchez ..has inspired me to dream bigger so I can share bigger also.

I can give support to my workplace by conducting seminars and provide a aura of hope and inspiration .

As of now , my contribution revolves around providing guidance and inspiration to the people that I touch . I have a fulfilling and productive relationship with God . He has nurture my soul and provided me with joy . It is manifested in my workplace because employees are happy , calm and joyful. They are happy working and the company provides for their needs .

Yes , God gives you what you ask for and every one of us deserves to be happy .

WHO AM I ????

Seems a simple question but profound in its meaning . Now I know I am a child of God , first and foremost  . I am proud of what I have accomplished in my personal life . The Lord has been so good to me that I have seen my dreams come true . My children are all college graduates and have a career of their own .

I am lucky in my career , as I was given the  proper breaks and opportunities to grow in my company . I was able to express my creative juices and translate them into action plans and programs for my department .

Just now I realize that I have to improve that part of me as wife to my husband . We have been engross with providing for my children and doing all the sacrifices . It's time to take care of ourselves.

My greatest gift and talents .Almost all throughout my career I am involved in human resource and personal development . I've worked in schools , drug rehabilitation , corporate retail  and manufacturing .  I love conducting trainings on Goal Setting , Leadership Development and Stress Management . I also love writing my thoughts - I have a blog Potentials . I can organize company events such as employee outing , Christmas Parties , Sales Kick off . I conceptualized themes for these events with the help of my co-employees and orchestrate people to make it happen .

My passion now is to be able to help others reach their full potential . Of course , on my own efforts and determination I would also like to achieve my own potential . I know I can still achieve my personal goals for myself such as writing and publishing self improvement books as well as conducting personal growth seminars .

I need to develop my spontaneity when facilitating seminars . In writing a book , I need to help on how to organize my writing in such a way that I can get the attention of my target market . I would also like to conduct training for young professionals on personal growth development so they can be guided in reaching their life goals .

Simplify Your Life

The complexity of our life nowadays has contributed to the emotional stress we put in our body resulting to ailments like hypertension, cancers, diabetes and other dreaded diseases.

We run from one activity to another, our mind jumps from one activity to another. Then our modern gadgets puts us on a 24/7 mode.The cellular phone and internet keeps us available 24/7. In the middle of our sleep, our phone rings and we are on running mode tackling a problem that waits for our decision. Then we can not anymore go back to sleep.

Simplifying our life may indeed be a challenge because of the convenience modern facilities gives us, however, getting too attached to these gadgets causes a strain on our physical health.

So how do we simplify ?

Going back to basics...try to savor the every day joys of life. Smell the flowers as you pass by a park or your garden if you have one... watch the sunset...play with your children....talk to your spouse...these are every day joys that we don't have to spend a single centavo but nurture our spirit...

Perhaps that's what we lack...nurturing our spirit...we often forget the basic of life...like relationships, we focus so much on material possessions that  in the process we neglect our relationships.

We may provide for their physical material needs but our quality time and attention is lacking. We camouflage our lack with material possessions. In the end, we end up alone and bitter because our effort goes futile because our relationships are broken.

The essence of our spirit is lost and confused. Finding that "spirit" involves simplifying our life so we can see through our heart what really matters...God, family, our own self.

Let us not drive ourselves into exhaustion... to the point of sickness, which eventually drain our finances. So again it is a futile effort.

Find time to enjoy life....

Finding Your Place in the World

We came into this world alone but in order to live, we have to find where we fit in this world . As we go on through life's journey , it is important we understand how the universal law of nature works .

Take a good look at the world in which you live . Where will you best fit in ?  How can you serve others ? No one can answers these questions but you .

If you let others answer these questions for you , you will end up being lost and continuously yearning for life's meaning , just because you let others decide for your place in this world .

To live a successful life , the world  requires that we cooperate , We must establish our own credibility and evaluate the credibility of people we associate with . Credibility means having integrity and a vision or purpose in life .

The world will cooperate with you if your task has benefits for others , or to the world .

Take time to prepare a comprehensive presentation on your projects , because if it is acceptable , not only will the necessary resources cooperate with you but the world will deliver your success on your terms.

THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE

My twin daughters decided to go home unscheduled from their Middle East work to be with their eldest brother during his ear surgery . I admire you so much ... you made your  Kuya D . happy and gave him strength prior to the surgery .

Your love has shown us the best qualities that you have ... God has bless you with a loving and gracious heart . Despite shouldering your own expense and leaving your work responsibilities , you decided to be with your Kuya D.

The 10 days that we were together as a family , as Team Santos brought so much memories of the times that we were always together prior to your Middle East adventures . Our various road trips across Luzon ... our weekly Feast PICC with Bro Bo Sanchez ...our monthly dinner treats ..We will miss you ...

We respect your desire to find your destiny ... we are praying for your future success  and safety every day.

We are looking forward  your next visit ... GOD BLESS YOU MORE...

We love you more..

I Miss Home

Home maybe a structure where we live day to day , a roof to cover our heads from the elements . Simply a house to shelter us from the busy life that we all have .

But a real home is where the people we love we interact , bond and share our stories .

I miss home ... for about a year now , my twin daughters decided to work overseas, somewhere in the Middle East ... fly their own wings and find their destiny . My eldest son works in the city and stay with my Mom. So practically it's just me and my husband . There are even times now I am home alone ...as my husband travels in the provinces as part of his work.

We use to be all together in our home but the past year , the usual lively conversations turn to quiet meditation of sorts ...tired from the day's work ...we just quietly eat dinner and watch TV then eventually sleep to prepare for next day's work .

Late last year we had a medical challenge as my eldest son needs to undergo an ear surgery . We all got alarm and worried . Unscheduled my twin daughters decided to go home to be with their eldest brother during his surgery . Even sacrificing their savings for the previous year just to go home .

Wow ..I am so elated knowing how my children loved each other that much  ... sacrificing their hard earned money just to be with us during this medical challenge . We were so happy for 10 short days ...just like old times ...the homey feeling is back... eating together , watching movies , just nothing conversations  but still you can feel the happiness of being home ...

Thank you Lord the surgery went well. My twin daughters are back in their Middle East place of work . Things you can say is back to normal but the good memories lingers on and on ..

Looking forward for their next visit and the full healing of my son...

Home is where you heart is ....